On Hold
So there she is. Asking me what's on my mind. I'll just have to tell her.
"I had a dream we were having sex last night."
"Really? What position?"
Phew. The cat's out of the bag, and she hasn't scorned me for it. She's got a boyfriend, and when she spends time with me she acts like her man would freak out if she told him she was with me.
"I'd consider it if I was single." Anyways...
After she left, I couldn't help but wonder if she would have a change of heart and figure its best if she keeps away from me. This would be the last thing I want, but then I was catastrophizing. It could happen still, I think to myself.
I have been told by a friend, after pointing out all the bad points about me, that if I don't change my ways he'll have to cut me off. This held the relationship in quite the shaky position for some time. It took the aforementioned woman to make a harsh judgement about him for him to realise what a bad feeling it left the persecuted individual in, rubbing salt into an open wound.
Then there are the times when your in a personal conversation, and find yourself rubbing the other person up the wrong way. I can't stand people doing it to me, and kick myself after I've done it to other people.
It is in these times when a friendship is "on hold." They've broken the ice before, so chances are the ice will be broken again.
Think before you talk. Practice what you preach. Don't get high off your own supply. There is one statement which binds these ideals:
"Easier said than done."
"I had a dream we were having sex last night."
"Really? What position?"
Phew. The cat's out of the bag, and she hasn't scorned me for it. She's got a boyfriend, and when she spends time with me she acts like her man would freak out if she told him she was with me.
"I'd consider it if I was single." Anyways...
After she left, I couldn't help but wonder if she would have a change of heart and figure its best if she keeps away from me. This would be the last thing I want, but then I was catastrophizing. It could happen still, I think to myself.
I have been told by a friend, after pointing out all the bad points about me, that if I don't change my ways he'll have to cut me off. This held the relationship in quite the shaky position for some time. It took the aforementioned woman to make a harsh judgement about him for him to realise what a bad feeling it left the persecuted individual in, rubbing salt into an open wound.
Then there are the times when your in a personal conversation, and find yourself rubbing the other person up the wrong way. I can't stand people doing it to me, and kick myself after I've done it to other people.
It is in these times when a friendship is "on hold." They've broken the ice before, so chances are the ice will be broken again.
Think before you talk. Practice what you preach. Don't get high off your own supply. There is one statement which binds these ideals:
"Easier said than done."








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Easy. Done.
DuskDevi
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I like the way you write.
It's as simple as that.
Like may not be a strong enough sentiment but I have no other. For now.
I like the tone of your writing, I like the style, the content, the message, the flow, the variety, the whimsy....
Strangely I cannot gauge the 'tone' of your responses.
Hence I am left with the feeling of being rubbed the wrong way.
....thus the genie fades....
Be well OptoMystique. I hope you are.
DuskDevi
Japanese Jazz Funk
Optomystic Opportunism
Thanks for showing up dusk.
I should be throwing a sorry in for good measure, but I can't bring myself to do so. Its true, its in the tone. And it was never meant to be negative.
I am still learning in a world where you are established.
Hope you'll forgive me for failing my crash test.
Opto